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My Mindset Change on Failure: New Year Resolutions

January 3, 2018

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Happy New Year friends. This time of year often fuels us with ambitious desires, new year resolutions, and goals. Reflecting thoughts become clear and pave a plan for our best year yet. And we are pumped as ever with determination to succeed.

Well for me, goal setting is not necessarily my strong suit. Unfortunately the thought of failing often prevents me from going after my dreams and desires.ย I am great at the thinking/dreaming part, but the planning/doing has always been my challenge. Those ‘what if’s?’ are a toughy for me! The whole formal idea of streamlining goals that will dictate my life just feels extremely overwhelming. And feeling overwhelmed and anxious is usually what stops me in my tracks. And to be honest, I often feel I am literally living from day to day. So just trying to “see” tomorrow is a challenge much less plan it.

So needless to say, I have never really jumped on the whole New Year Resolution band wagon. With the exception of one year when I gave up chips (love me some chips and dip!). I did great following through; however it became apparent that it was the “crunch” I was after in chips so gradually merged towards crackers. Which then led to slapping some cheese on that cracker. Then of course I’d get thirsty from all that sodium. And what better beverage to complement your cheese and cracker than with wine! So I’m not really sure that new year resolution did me any good in the calorie department! ;/

SO where is this post going? Bottom line, generally the feeling of productivity comes from the achievement of reaching something you set out to do. I happen to thoroughly enjoy the feeling of productivity. But since goals are mostly not set in my life (due to fear of failing) I am left with feeling no achievements, which then leaves me feeling like a failure. lol Interesting how that works. ๐Ÿ˜‰

SO for 2018 I’m choosing to work towards a goal oriented mindset. Learn to break things down into achievable steps that will leave me encouraged and fueled to pursue further. Acknowledge failing is not necessarily negative. Failing is evidence of trying and value WILL come out of it. While I failed at decreasing my calorie intake with my no chips goal, I did walk away from that fail realizing that healthy crunch alternatives was my answer.ย Celery and almond butter does the trick now. ๐Ÿ˜‰

God placed these desires and dreams inside of me; therefore he has equipped me with the tools and strengths to achieve them.

I hope the beginning of 2018 has jump started you to seek and pursue great and mighty things in your year to come. And if fear of failure is a challenge you face as well, perhaps switching gears on the whole idea behind failing will help. I believe in you. xo

Do you struggle with fear of failing? Are you a New Year Resolutionist? Any tips on goal setting? Please share them in the comments below. I would love to hear them.

About my outfit. This Shawl Collar Coat has been my favorite latest addition. It’s like walking around in a cozy warm blanket AND it’s currently on sale for under $20. It comes in multiple colors. I just purchased the white one yesterday. The red one was tempting too! And my “Ok, but first COFFEE” t-shirt is perfect for any coffee lover. Outfit details below.

Thank you for reading. To a great year in 2018.

Annetteย โ™ฅ

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66 Comments

  • Reply Melanie January 3, 2018 at 12:25 pm

    I love that your resolution is to create a mindset! I am the same way, so horrible with follow-thru! I don’t typically do resolutions, because I think anytime is a good time to try to start something. My only issue is that I always get started, but get distracted by something new and never finish the first thing I set my mind to. I love the idea of working towards creating the right mindset to actually meet the goals with attainable steps. Great post! Thanks!

    • Reply Annette January 3, 2018 at 12:31 pm

      Thank you Melanie, I really appreciate your response. I totally understand the distraction issue. I feel that struggle is gradually getting worse as I get older. lol Thank you for reading. Happy New Year. xo

  • Reply Casey January 3, 2018 at 1:20 pm

    This is a great goal! I find that actually writing down my goals and looking st them help me to achieve what Iโ€™m after. When I donโ€™t do that itโ€™s like it never happened.

    • Reply Annette January 3, 2018 at 8:17 pm

      Thank you Casey. And yes, being a visual person I can totally see that being beneficial. Thank you so much for reading. xo

  • Reply Kristina January 3, 2018 at 4:59 pm

    I definitely make more “goals” than resolution- it’s always good to write them down in the beginning of the year and look back and see what all you’ve accomplished!

    xo, Kristina

    • Reply Annette January 3, 2018 at 8:19 pm

      I’m crossing my fingers there will be some accomplishments. lol Thank you for Kristina. xo

  • Reply Candice Renee January 3, 2018 at 5:56 pm

    I’ve made some resolutions this year but they are really more like goals. I’m creating a mind-set that I will do my best and hope to achieve at least most of them! I LOVE your coat and can’t believe how inexpensive it is! I’m checking out BooHoo for sure!!

    • Reply Annette January 3, 2018 at 8:20 pm

      Sounds like a great goal Candice. And yes, so far I have been quite pleased with my BooHoo purchases.

  • Reply Shira January 3, 2018 at 6:04 pm

    I love the idea of breaking down goals into small and achievable steps. As a therapist, I often help my clients with this! And I’m not a big believer in giving up most things completely- too black and white and rarely unsustainable!

    • Reply Annette January 3, 2018 at 8:31 pm

      Thank you Shira. I have found that cold turkey methods for the most part work best for me. It’s not perhaps the greatest, but I find adding the challenge to learn the “balance” is just an additional decision/pressure I have a hard time handling when focusing on achieving a goal. I much prefer the all or nothing. :/

  • Reply Candace January 3, 2018 at 8:52 pm

    Being goal oriented will go a long way! It will ensure you’re always on track to moving up a level and also make you hold yourself accountable. I need to start breaking mine down like this!

    • Reply Annette January 3, 2018 at 9:31 pm

      Thank you Candace for the encouragement. I’m looking forward to the learning curve through it all. Have a great night. xo

  • Reply Mariah Klee January 3, 2018 at 9:57 pm

    Absolutely love your outlook on this! “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength”!

    Mariah
    http://www.likehoneyblog.com

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 9:46 am

      Thank you Mariah. That has actually been my favorite scripture my whole life. And I came very very close to including it in the post. ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you for reading. xo

  • Reply Jordan | Read. Eat. Repeat. January 4, 2018 at 10:28 am

    Fear of failure holds me back too sometimes! I do like setting goals though, so what that looks like when goals and fear of failure merge is that I set low goals that I know I can reach, which isn’t really very helpful.

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 2:12 pm

      Baby steps is something right? Although I am quite impressed and proud of you Jordan…you set out to start a book club and it seems to be off on a good start. Great job girl!! xo

  • Reply Taylor Aube January 4, 2018 at 10:59 am

    A goal-oriented mindset is so essential for anyone, especially bloggers! I’m in the same boat girl – thanks for the inspo!

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 2:12 pm

      YES, I’m starting to realize that. lol Thanks for the boost. xo

  • Reply Julie January 4, 2018 at 11:00 am

    I love the idea of breaking up goals into achievable steps! I think people should do this because it gives them a sense of accomplishment even when small steps are finished. Great look too!

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 2:13 pm

      Thank you Julie. xo

  • Reply Emily Wilkinson January 4, 2018 at 11:01 am

    Love your thoughts on 2018 & the year ahead! Love your outfit.

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 2:13 pm

      Thank you Emily. xo

  • Reply Cathy January 4, 2018 at 11:24 am

    Resolutions are always so hard so I set goals this year. Maybe that’s the same thing? haha Love your post, and now I crave crackers with cheese!

    XOXO
    Cathy

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 2:16 pm

      I guess I have kind of felt they were the same too. Maybe there is a difference?? hmmm? lol and sorry about the cheese and cracker issue. I totally understand…the struggle is real. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Happy New Year Cathy. xo

  • Reply McKenna Trahan January 4, 2018 at 11:45 am

    I love these new year thoughts girl!! Happy New Year to You!!

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 2:16 pm

      Thank you McKenna. Happy New Year! xo

  • Reply maggie January 4, 2018 at 11:51 am

    I always make goals for myself but never beat myself up if I fail. I view goals as a lifestyle than a necessary temporary thing, which helps me easily achieve them and push past failure!

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 2:17 pm

      Sounds like a great perspective. Thank you for reading Maggie. xo

  • Reply Justine @ Little Dove January 4, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    I’m not a big fan of resolutions either, goals with attainable steps are definitely the way to go!

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 2:18 pm

      I’m hoping so. Thanks for the boost. Happy New Year Justine. xo

  • Reply Kim January 4, 2018 at 12:25 pm

    Happy New Year and I know 2018 is going to be a great one for you! Such a great goal to aspire to!

    xoxo,
    Kim

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 2:18 pm

      Thank you Kim, I appreciate the encouraging words. Happy New Year. xo

  • Reply Sanaa Brooks January 4, 2018 at 1:56 pm

    So funny, I’m the exact same way! I’m a planner, not a doer, and it drives me crazy. But I’m determined to make this change this year!

    Good luck!

    ~ Sanaa
    http://www.amomthatsleeps.com

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 2:19 pm

      YES! Let’s do this! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Happy New Year Sanaa. xo

  • Reply Laura || Walking in Memphis in High Heels January 4, 2018 at 5:30 pm

    I really love breaking down goals so they are smaller and more attainable. I love to plan my butt off but I need to make it all into actions I hope with talking about it and building each other up I feel like we can do this together!

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 10:13 pm

      Yes, all of this goal talk buzzing around has definitely been motivational. Happy New Year Laura. xo

  • Reply Jen January 4, 2018 at 5:56 pm

    I love the thought of breaking down bigger goals into smaller steps. This will help me!

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 10:14 pm

      I’m hoping it will help me too! ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you for reading Jen. Happy New Year.

  • Reply Asia January 4, 2018 at 8:27 pm

    I’m def a Goal Digger but the problem I often face is following thru with the plan. I recently created a guide for me to have the best year ever & 4 days in it seems to be working.

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 10:16 pm

      I think the following through part is a common challenge for many. Wonderful news that your plan is working so far. To great success in your year to come Asia. xo

  • Reply Becki Svare January 4, 2018 at 9:07 pm

    I’m really good at dreaming too. I can even write down some awesome goals. The problem comes in the execution ๐Ÿ™ This year I am working with a mentor and an accountability group. WAY outside my comfort zone…but, I’m really wanting to crush it this year!! Wishing you the best on your journey this year!!

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 10:17 pm

      I think that is an awesome idea Becki and I’m so excited about your plan to tackle (crush) it. Thanks for the encouraging words. Warmest wishes on your journey as well. xo

  • Reply Jessica January 4, 2018 at 9:31 pm

    Healthy thinking and cute outfit!! Best wishes for 2018!

    • Reply Annette January 4, 2018 at 10:18 pm

      Thank you Jessia. xo

  • Reply Greta January 4, 2018 at 10:28 pm

    I’m just like you. I never make resolutions because I don’t like looking back on the year and thinking I’ve failed! I wrote down two goals for the year, so finger’s crossed!

    • Reply Annette January 5, 2018 at 8:52 am

      GLad to hear I wasn’t the only one. ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you for reading Greta. May you have great success in the year to come. xo

  • Reply Amanda January 4, 2018 at 11:51 pm

    I’m all about goal making but totally get when others are not. I love that your resolution this year is to have that goal-oriented mindset, I think that’s great! Wishing you an amazing 2018!!

    • Reply Annette January 5, 2018 at 8:52 am

      Thank you Amanda. I appreciate your encouraging words. xo

  • Reply elsie January 5, 2018 at 6:20 am

    Great post! I think it really helps to break down things and work towards being a better person. Love your outfit as well, especially the hat.

    • Reply Annette January 5, 2018 at 8:53 am

      Thank you Elsie, I really appreciate that. xo

  • Reply Courtney Byers January 5, 2018 at 9:20 am

    I love the idea of setting goals vs. resolutions. I did not set any resolutions last year, but set a few goals. This year I went overboard and came up with 18 resolutions that mostly are goals. Good luck to you and have a blessed 2018.

    • Reply Annette January 5, 2018 at 1:33 pm

      Oh wow 18 goals sounds like it’s going to be a productive year for you. ๐Ÿ™‚ Best of luck. Happy New Year Courtney! xo

  • Reply Jessica January 5, 2018 at 9:28 am

    It is so important to be goal oriented. It keeps you focused!
    xo Jessica
    http://www.whatsfordinneresq.com

    • Reply Annette January 5, 2018 at 1:32 pm

      Lord knows I need focus!

  • Reply Laura January 5, 2018 at 8:37 pm

    I’m definitely more of a goal setter than a resolutions kind of person myself! I love that your goal is to change your mindset! PS love your outfit.

    xo, Laura

    • Reply Annette January 7, 2018 at 5:29 pm

      Thank you Laura, I appreciate that. ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Reply Nicole January 7, 2018 at 11:30 pm

    Thank you so much for your transparent post! I think we all suffer (at some point) of not taking chances because we’re afraid to fail. It’s always a great reminder that sometimes the biggest risks lead to the greatest rewards.

    • Reply Annette January 8, 2018 at 10:42 am

      Thank you Nicole for your encouraging words. Most battles start with our mind so I’m feeling a mindset change is a good start in the right direction. ๐Ÿ™‚ Have a great week. xo

  • Reply Sabrina January 8, 2018 at 1:23 am

    I love this post! Thanks for being so honest!

    Xoxo

    • Reply Annette January 8, 2018 at 10:42 am

      Thank you Sabrina. xo

  • Reply LuxMommy January 8, 2018 at 9:23 am

    Love these type of posts. Thanks for sharing your thoughts going into 2018!! Happy New Year!

    • Reply Annette January 8, 2018 at 10:42 am

      Thank you for reading. Have an amazing week. xo

  • Reply Tristan Dennington January 8, 2018 at 12:37 pm

    I am so with you on this! Resolutions always intimidate me, and I am learning to break them down into smaller goals that are achievable. Hope your 2018 is off to a wonderful start!

    -Tristan

    • Reply Annette January 10, 2018 at 8:44 am

      Thank you Tristan. Best wishes to you too. xo

  • Reply Tayler Malott January 9, 2018 at 11:12 pm

    This is such a great post to start the year!

    XO,Tay
    http://www.taylermalott.com

    • Reply Annette January 10, 2018 at 8:43 am

      Thank you!

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