Have you ever given someone a gift and based on their reaction you knew you hit the jackpot? More than likely you tapped into that individuals love language. The sentiment you gave spoke to them on a deeper level simply because you spoke the language they speak emotionally. Or on the flip side, have you ever given something that you thought for sure they were going to love, yet didn’t receive the reaction you had hoped for. It’s a possibility that gift spoke more to your love language rather than the recipient’s. With Valentine’s Day approaching and the need for gifts in full swing try considering the love language your recipient identifies with as your ultimate guide for gifting.
According to author Gary Chapman, we each primarily identify with one of the 5 love languages below:
– Words of Affirmation
– Quality Time
– Receiving Gifts
– Acts of Service
– Physical Touch
The truth of the matter is we all communicate and receive differently. It’s what makes us who we are and how God intended for us to contribute in this life. By no means am I an expert on love languages. However I have always had a passion for learning people as individuals and understanding why we do what we do. I have learned over the years that understanding what makes someone thrive, learning how they communicate, and how they receive is truly the key to ones soul. It takes observation, listening, respect, and at times lots of patience. But I have found when we truly try to understand these areas in someone less friction and frustration will occur. We shift to an acceptance of who they truly are inside and embrace them for the potential they have to offer.
We can express our appreciation with the simplest sentiments. Yet have powerful results if we are tapping into their love language.
If your loved one desires good quality time, plan some undivided one on one with them with no outside distractions. If words of affirmation make them glow, simply express what you love about them or why you are so proud of them. A simple compliment works wonders for those that need to hear you are pleased with them. If acts of service speak straight to their heart, surprise them with an extra helping hand that is outside the norm. For those that need that extra physical touch, try a spontaneous hug, tickle time, a high five, an arm around their shoulder. They will probably melt with gratitude. If receiving gifts bring them joy, pay attention to those little hints of things they like. The fact that you paid attention AND bought it for them will speak so much louder than any words.
Not only will communicating ones love language open up a whole new level of positivity in the relationship, but that sparkle in their eye when you speak to their love language is priceless and so rewarding. It automatically becomes a win-win moment for the both of you.
I encourage you to learn and communicate to your loved ones in their love languages. Not only for the holiday seasons or special occasions, but in your daily life encounters. We need to let our loved ones know we think they are important in the way that speaks to them the most. You will find nurturing their love language on a regular basis will draw out their special gifts and strengths by default. Which is what life is all about, letting our individual God given gifts and strengths work together in accordance to His plan.
Have you ever researched love languages and personality traits? Did you notice a difference in how you see/relate/connect/accept others after identifying them? I would very much love to hear your thoughts and experiences on the subject. This seriously in one of my favorite topics to discuss. It’s so interesting to me. 🙂
On another note, let’s switch gears a tad and talk about this all white look. Now I realize some are terrified when it comes to wearing all white due to the staining factor. And I totally get it. Especially for us moms who are constantly in the midst of some type of nastiness that comes with our beautiful children. However for me, the presence that an all white ensemble contributes is just too good to not participate in from time to time. Also this bucket bag has been my go-to lately. A pop of red just has a way of providing that finishing touch. What about you guys? Are you yah or nah when it comes to wearing white?
Unfortunately most of the pieces I’m wearing here are no longer available with the exception of the bag, however I linked some cute similar options below.
Thank you so much for reading. I truly appreciate our visits.
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*This post is not sponsored in anyway, and was simply written based on my opinion on the subject alone.